[KLUG Members] loyalty, maturity and responsibility

[Andy York]

I would like to attend meetings again soon so..... stop it! Everyone
Andy

zdennis wrote:
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> Eric Beversluis wrote:
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>> Consider some guys who have been members of a group for half a dozen or
>> so years--a group they consider very important and to which they've
>> devoted much energy. Now they find that the currently elected leadership
>> of the group is doing things that are not to their liking. What's the
>> mature and nonselfish thing to do? Surely not just to pick up their
>> marbles and go play some place else. Such behavior not only indicates a
>> selfish interest in themselves and their own satisfaction but also the
>> lack of enough maturity to stick with the group and try to move it in a
>> more satisfactory direction. And, furthermore, if the group has general
>> social value--as, for example, a group that is a 501(3)c public
>> charity--then maybe there are also nonselfish reasons for sticking with
>> the group, despite temporary dissatisfactions, rather than sulking off
>> to start another group.
>>
>>     
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> - From dealing with people I would recommend contacting the people you are
> having issues with privately, and bring up the issues you have with
> them. If the matter can be resolved or agreed to be worked on behind
> closed doors, then that appears to be the best route.
>
> If they disagree with your arguments and concerns, I would suggest
> contacting other leading members of the group whom you don't have issues
> with, and ask them to mediate.
>
> Most of the time issues are simply miscommunication or misunderstanding,
> and most of the time people are reasonable and resolution or
> clarification is easy to accomplish. Sometimes this isn't the case, and
> other people need to get involved.
>
> Be sure to have exactly what is bothering you and why it bothers you
> ready for conversation, as it's hard to be the person who someone has a
> problem with, yet you don't know why and they won't tell you.
>
> I would also recommend bringing this up to a close friend or colleague
> outside the group or outside the immediate group of people you're having
> issues with. Sometimes you find it's you who's wearing those colored
> glasses, and then again, sometimes you just strengthen the way you
> already felt.
>
> I wish the best of resolve to whatever it is that is itching away at you.
>
> Zach
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